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Geoff · 05-12-2011, 12:45 PM

GIVE ME YOUR LUNCH MONEY NERDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Greatbacon · 05-12-2011, 01:08 PM

Fucking Linear Algebra final...

and I still have a physics final at 7:30 tomorrow morning.

But then ACEN in a week, so it all works out I guess.

Eschatos · 05-12-2011, 06:58 PM

My only internet access is from work.Â On the plus side, one of my jobs doesn't give a fuck about internet browsing.

A. Crow · 05-12-2011, 10:31 PM

(05-12-2011, 12:20 PM)If-I-Die-Its-LAG! link Wrote: Honestly, I had the same problem.

Here's the best way I do things.

Put feeling behind every single confrontation. People will respect a person who vent their feelings out loud. Make them feel like the jerks that you claim them to be. In fact, hurt them. Just do not go violent on them.

Do not be afraid of going to an authority figure if the harassment continues. I did that once against two people and they repented. In fact, I became sort of friends with a former bully.

I'm going to play devils advocate here and suggest you follow the Ender's Game method of bully nullification- start with a cheap shot, and keep kicking him in the head till he stops moving.

at0m · 05-12-2011, 10:33 PM

(05-12-2011, 10:31 PM)LT Crow link Wrote: [quote author=If-I-Die-Its-LAG! link=topic=3709.msg206166#msg206166 date=1305220824]
Honestly, I had the same problem.

Here's the best way I do things.

Put feeling behind every single confrontation. People will respect a person who vent their feelings out loud. Make them feel like the jerks that you claim them to be. In fact, hurt them. Just do not go violent on them.

Do not be afraid of going to an authority figure if the harassment continues. I did that once against two people and they repented. In fact, I became sort of friends with a former bully.

I'm going to play devils advocate here and suggest you follow the Ender's Game method of bully nullification- start with a cheap shot, and keep kicking him in the head till he stops moving.
[/quote]While naked, in the shower.

copulatingduck · 05-13-2011, 12:02 AM

(05-12-2011, 12:45 PM)geoff link Wrote: GIVE ME YOUR LUNCH MONEY NERDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ilu geoff

Dtrain323i · 05-13-2011, 07:07 AM

(05-12-2011, 10:31 PM)LT Crow link Wrote: [quote author=If-I-Die-Its-LAG! link=topic=3709.msg206166#msg206166 date=1305220824]
Honestly, I had the same problem.

Here's the best way I do things.

Put feeling behind every single confrontation. People will respect a person who vent their feelings out loud. Make them feel like the jerks that you claim them to be. In fact, hurt them. Just do not go violent on them.

Do not be afraid of going to an authority figure if the harassment continues. I did that once against two people and they repented. In fact, I became sort of friends with a former bully.

I'm going to play devils advocate here and suggest you follow the Ender's Game method of bully nullification- start with a cheap shot, and keep kicking him in the head till he stops moving.
[/quote]

Just watch the show "Oz" and you'll know how to handle high school

k0ala · 05-13-2011, 06:35 PM

General layoff at my company. I'm one of the lucky ones that won't have to come in to work. Now maybe I can get some shit done.

**Surf314** · 05-14-2011, 09:42 AM

Going to spend the next 8 hours correcting citations for a competition to get on law review.

Coelit · 05-14-2011, 12:00 PM

4 days until I leave for Chicago and I still have yet to receive the money due to circumstances I would rather not explain so here I am needing to find someone willing to loan me money, and a large sum at that. Oh and I lost my fucking wallet so I need some way to get a new picture ID.

at0m · 05-14-2011, 01:03 PM

I was almost expelled from middle school for being suspended so many times from fighting. I did NOT like getting picked on, and there was a group of bullies that took turns getting suspended for fighting with me about it. Short temper + they knew how to push my buttons = fist fights erry day.

@Coelit: lolwut. You need to get your shit figured out before anyone's going to lend you money, and they're probably going to want an explanation of why you need it and how you're going to pay it back before dropping some benjamins on you ;x

Kirby · 05-14-2011, 01:13 PM

(05-14-2011, 01:03 PM)at0m link Wrote: I was almost expelled from middle school for being suspended so many times from fighting. I did NOT like getting picked on, and there was a group of bullies that took turns getting suspended for fighting with me about it. Short temper + they knew how to push my buttons = fist fights erry day.

@Coelit: lolwut. You need to get your shit figured out before anyone's going to lend you money, and they're probably going to want an explanation of why you need it and how you're going to pay it back before dropping some benjamins on you ;x

I was expelled from High School for fights and truancy. I got suspended my 1st time in 2nd grade for punching some kid in the mouth, and got at least 3 suspensions a year after that until my senior year when I was asked politely to not come back to school anymore because when I did decide to go, it was probably to catch someone when they weren't expecting me to be around.

**Surf314** · 05-14-2011, 02:01 PM

(05-14-2011, 09:42 AM)Surf314 link Wrote: Going to spend the next 8 hours correcting citations for a competition to get on law review.

My head is about to asplode.

**Surf314** · 05-14-2011, 02:54 PM

(05-14-2011, 02:01 PM)Surf314 link Wrote: [quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206356#msg206356 date=1305384140]
Going to spend the next 8 hours correcting citations for a competition to get on law review.

My head is about to asplode.
[/quote]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

at0m · 05-14-2011, 03:01 PM

(05-14-2011, 02:54 PM)Surf314 link Wrote: [quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206377#msg206377 date=1305399711]
[quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206356#msg206356 date=1305384140]
Going to spend the next 8 hours correcting citations for a competition to get on law review.

My head is about to asplode.
[/quote]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
[/quote]Soul at 60% health?

Kirby · 05-14-2011, 03:05 PM

(05-14-2011, 03:01 PM)at0m link Wrote: [quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206379#msg206379 date=1305402874]
[quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206377#msg206377 date=1305399711]
[quote author=Surf314 link=topic=3709.msg206356#msg206356 date=1305384140]
Going to spend the next 8 hours correcting citations for a competition to get on law review.

My head is about to asplode.
[/quote]

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
[/quote]Soul at 60% health?
[/quote]

I thought handing in your Soul was an entry requirement for law school?

Cloud_9ine · 05-14-2011, 03:47 PM

Well lets see, I bring up ACEN to parentals (specifically mother) about 2 months ago. I knew that money wouldn't be a huge issue, but them letting me go could be, but since I like to think higher of them that they can consider me to be a perfectly capable person that is able to make good judgement calls, I didn't think it would be a huge problem since ACEN is only 1 hour away from me. Oh boi was I wrong.

So first off she is all, like "oh but I don't even know these people, thus they will obviously get your ass drunk and corrupted and killed" (I am of course paraphrasing). Thing is, she was being understandably protective and such, but she couldn't seem to understand why or how much I wanted to go.

Fast forward to easter and there is my cousin who is going to be going with his gf and friend. My mom talks to him about it and stuff, I could stay with them if I had to, I wont get killed, etc. The main thing out of this is that I figured that she had some initiative to make a decision if I could go and that I didn't have to prod her about this. End result of that day was that she told me that she was going to talk to Dad about it.

Fast forward further until today. And I ask her if she has made a decision since I have basically lost my spot with BRB,u so going with my cousin seems to be my only option. She is suddenly like I thought we were going to talk about this, and I remind her that she said she was going to talk to Dad about it. Dad is in the car during this and he has no clue what we are talking about so obviously she didn't talk to him about this.

End result is that I trusted her to realize the importance of this to me and not only have I for sure lost my spot with BRB,u, but possibly my chance to go to ACEN this this year since I thought she would be on top of this to at least some degree. And to think that she rants on my ass about how she is obviously so approachable and I can talk to her about anything.

FML

Dtrain323i · 05-14-2011, 05:18 PM

(05-14-2011, 03:47 PM)Cloud_9ine link Wrote: Well lets see, I bring up ACEN to parentals (specifically mother) about 2 months ago. I knew that money wouldn't be a huge issue, but them letting me go could be, but since I like to think higher of them that they can consider me to be a perfectly capable person that is able to make good judgement calls, I didn't think it would be a huge problem since ACEN is only 1 hour away from me. Oh boi was I wrong.

So first off she is all, like "oh but I don't even know these people, thus they will obviously get your ass drunk and corrupted and killed" (I am of course paraphrasing). Thing is, she was being understandably protective and such, but she couldn't seem to understand why or how much I wanted to go.

Fast forward to easter and there is my cousin who is going to be going with his gf and friend. My mom talks to him about it and stuff, I could stay with them if I had to, I wont get killed, etc. The main thing out of this is that I figured that she had some initiative to make a decision if I could go and that I didn't have to prod her about this. End result of that day was that she told me that she was going to talk to Dad about it.

Fast forward further until today. And I ask her if she has made a decision since I have basically lost my spot with BRB,u so going with my cousin seems to be my only option. She is suddenly like I thought we were going to talk about this, and I remind her that she said she was going to talk to Dad about it. Dad is in the car during this and he has no clue what we are talking about so obviously she didn't talk to him about this.

End result is that I trusted her to realize the importance of this to me and not only have I for sure lost my spot with BRB,u, but possibly my chance to go to ACEN this this year since I thought she would be on top of this to at least some degree. And to think that she rants on my ass about how she is obviously so approachable and I can talk to her about anything.

FML

Moving out of my house was the best day of my life. Also, do what your parents say.

Totla · 05-14-2011, 06:03 PM

I cleaned a retention pond for five hours. Sunburn? Yes. Sore? Yes. Sense of accomplishment? Hell no.

05-14-2011, 07:14 PM

(05-14-2011, 03:47 PM)Cloud_9ine link Wrote: Well lets see, I bring up ACEN to parentals (specifically mother) about 2 months ago. I knew that money wouldn't be a huge issue, but them letting me go could be, but since I like to think higher of them that they can consider me to be a perfectly capable person that is able to make good judgement calls, I didn't think it would be a huge problem since ACEN is only 1 hour away from me. Oh boi was I wrong.

So first off she is all, like "oh but I don't even know these people, thus they will obviously get your ass drunk and corrupted and killed" (I am of course paraphrasing). Thing is, she was being understandably protective and such, but she couldn't seem to understand why or how much I wanted to go.

Fast forward to easter and there is my cousin who is going to be going with his gf and friend. My mom talks to him about it and stuff, I could stay with them if I had to, I wont get killed, etc. The main thing out of this is that I figured that she had some initiative to make a decision if I could go and that I didn't have to prod her about this. End result of that day was that she told me that she was going to talk to Dad about it.

Fast forward further until today. And I ask her if she has made a decision since I have basically lost my spot with BRB,u so going with my cousin seems to be my only option. She is suddenly like I thought we were going to talk about this, and I remind her that she said she was going to talk to Dad about it. Dad is in the car during this and he has no clue what we are talking about so obviously she didn't talk to him about this.

End result is that I trusted her to realize the importance of this to me and not only have I for sure lost my spot with BRB,u, but possibly my chance to go to ACEN this this year since I thought she would be on top of this to at least some degree. And to think that she rants on my ass about how she is obviously so approachable and I can talk to her about anything.

FML

The way you write this sounds like you really tried to be respectful and work within the normal chain-of-command in your family. And, while she sounds like she has concerns about trusting your judgment, you put your trust in her to discuss this with your father. Which she didn't do, and which then undermines your trust in her, and which will ultimately make it harder for the two of you to move from a parent-little child relationship to a relationship between two adults.

I'd call her on that (calmly, quietly, respectfully), and remind her that you were trying to be transparent about where you were going and who you would be going with. I'd also ask her to explain how it's wrong for you to go with your family/cousin - does she not trust him also?

Best of luck.

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