The "Fuck my life" thread

[Didzo]

got a decent chip on the leading edge of the hood of my mustang... there's some paint bubbling next to it.  

Took it into the place i use for touch up work, they want to repaint my entire hood.  

Touch up paint looks hideous if the chip is decent sized. Painting the whole thing is the only way to do it right. You could try out one of those vinyl clear bra things if you encounter gravel frequently once you get it repainted.

[Chief]

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i know many other people smarter than me and likely more experience than me as well has commented on this, and hopefully you're taking those comments to heart, but i thought i would give my own comments on this situation. and i could be completely wrong on everything im saying, but im basing my thoughts on your single post here alone

for one, i want you to stop taking the easy road. secondly, i want you to stop looking for meaning in other people's lives (primarily those of the opposite sex).

you're falling into a trap of finding someone you think you can easily hook up with that will automatically improve your life just because she's in it, that you want to have her as a nice girlfriend who you can connect with, share your interests, magically fill your emotional needs in a snap of a finger, and be a source of constant validation for you. we've all been there, and then we hit the part where we think all women are simply shallow and simply use you, but there's still this one girl that's different from all the rest and "ill treat her differently, and she will do the same for me". so you'll position yourself so that when (and importantly, if) they break up you can simply show yourself as a guy who has been there all along in some form of shining armor (im exaggerating here) and then she'll be so happy for you because you're different from the rest, and blah blah blah

stop it.

if she hasnt even told you explicitly she feels the same way you do about her, you have absolutely no reason to think that she does. this is the 'trap' i was talking about. you've already set up this elaborate situation in your head, and once you figure out that it's not entirely possible, you feel your heart in your chest drop when it doesnt work out the way you thought it would.

i hope you're seeing just how dumb this exactly is. and if not, a few years down you'll look back and read this post and be like "how did i ever think that way? why was i simply setting myself to fail?"

so what now? you're feeling down, effects of depression even, feeling like you're stuck. but the one thing to realize, is that you're feeling this way because of your own choice. this is only complicated for yourself because you made it that way. and maybe once you've figured that out you'll feel a little bit more down. so now it's time to ask yourself some questions, maybe reevaluate a bit of where your life is exactly going. ask yourself questions such as: are you being honest and putting your real personality out there? are you living a compelling life that fascinates others and draws them in? are you driven by a life purpose that YOU are passionate about? do you seek out meaningful life experience that will create personal depth? THESE ARE ALL THINGS THAT YOU CAN IMPROVE ON, RIGHT NOW. maybe this means finding a new hobby, joining a few clubs, living life a little more. maybe this means dumping your current group of friends and getting ones that are better for you (i cant answer this for you and neither am i saying this is the case). whatever it is, its going to be you and only you making these choices.

i want to take something i read on another forum, and maybe it will explain things a little better than i can for the next part:

The ability to make lasting, meaningful connections with your partners isn't something that gets handed to you from whining about it on an Internet forum. It's something you EARN along the way as you journey toward becoming a man.

Why the fuck are you looking for “meaning” from another person, anyway? You can't expect another person to fill the void of meaning in your life. If a woman can tell that you're trying to get something from her, whether it be sex or “connection,” she will instinctively pull away because she can tell you're being a fucking parasite.

Meaning comes from your goals, your passion, your life purpose, the things that you care about and dedicate yourself to. If you want to find a real connection, place your true purpose in the center of your life and then invite another person to share and celebrate that with you. That's what connection is, and any attempt at creating connection without that foundation will be inevitably shallow.

so what does all of this have to do with my first point? i was basically only talking about the second part for everything above, so why do i say to 'stop taking the easy road'? you've likely already heard this, so im not going to bother with elaborating on it much. improving yourself will never be easy. finding interest in a girl that has maybe showed a little bit of interest in you IS easy. excelling at accomplishing challenges you'll inevitably face in life won't be easy. just getting something done is. you say you're athletic and so im not doubting that you don't know this or something like that. but maybe you have to apply the thought to way more things in life.

like i said when opening this, these are just my thoughts from my experiences and what im reading from what you wrote. there is a huge possibility that my advice could be total horseshit (which i hope it isnt).

disregard whats holding you back. appreciate that you had the opportunity to face these challenges and that you're able to graciously improve yourself because of them. celebrate your accomplishments. most importantly though is to keep moving. never stop to look back on what could have been. always be happy that tomorrow you have the ability to make all the choices you want to make, regardless of what others think. because when others are doubting what you could be, they are simply trying to hold you down at the same level they are at, because they dont want to put the effort in to improve when they see that you do.

godspeed.

[A. Crow]

I've had 11 consecutive workdays of vacation.. and now I have to go back to work in the morning. 

[Duck, Duck, Goose]

So this is a thing. I seriously wonder if anyone involved with this campaign is gay or if it's just another classic case of white people being offended on someone else's behalf. Like god, Orson Scott Card is allowed a personal opinion even if it doesn't mirror your own. Fucking hivemind.

[at0m]

Well there's the whole genocide thing too, we've had that discussion before I think

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[rumbot]

Orson Scott Card is allowed a personal opinion even if it doesn't mirror your own. Fucking hivemind.

a) OSC is allowed his personal opinion. That's free speech.
b.) People who love OSC are allowed to voice their opinion, that's more free speech.
c) People who don't like OSC are ALSO allowed to voice their opinion, that's more free speech.
d) You are allowed to call © a hivemind, cause that's your opinion and ...also...free speech.

e) even though (d) is free speech, and you have the right to say it, you are implying that the people in © should shut up and not exercise their right to free speech. This is my opinion, and also speech.

f) anyone who wants to criticize this has the right to, that's also more speech.

The solution to speech you don't like is more speech.

[A. Crow]

Rummy, you know that's not how we work in this country. 

[at0m]

Rummy, you know that's not how we work in this country. 

Shut up.

[Dtrain323i]

I believe I've just gotten fucked at work.

[Goffin]

did they buy you dinner first at least?  do tell . 

[Didzo]

What a coincidence, so did I!

Good news: Not fired.

Bad news: See above.

[at0m]

I believe I've just gotten fucked at work.

didn't that other guy call off and you went home the other day?

[Dtrain323i]

Basically, my job is to inspect fire extinguishers at this particular plant. There's roughly 2000 extinguishers. It takes 2-3 weeks to go through the whole plant and check them all. The guy who's been doing this job for a couple years showed me around for one inspection cycle (meaning i've been through these building once, maybe twice). So there's no way for me to know the locations of all 2000 extinguishers. My boss pulled the guy who was training me and put him on a different project. So, with next to zero training, I've been put in charged of inspecting all 2000 extinguishers by myself. My company has been doing this work for this particular client for about 5 years without a contract (normally there's a service contract for a set amount of years). They're prepared to send over a 3 year contract that will streamline a lot of things. However, one of the prerequisites for them is that 100% of the extinguishers need to be inspected. Failure to get 100% of them inspected is a "deal-breaker" (their words) I have 3 days to find all the extinguishers that I've missed and I don't even know where they are.


tl;dr- Keeping or losing a client of 15 years has been placed on my shoulders and I have no idea how i'm going to do it.

[Evil Cheese]

There's no documentation or floor plan with the all the extinguishers are marked? If not your company kind of screwed the pooch themselves. There's no reason why that shouldn't be documented.

[StolenToast]

Basically, my job is to inspect fire extinguishers at this particular plant. There's roughly 2000 extinguishers. It takes 2-3 weeks to go through the whole plant and check them all. The guy who's been doing this job for a couple years showed me around for one inspection cycle (meaning i've been through these building once, maybe twice). So there's no way for me to know the locations of all 2000 extinguishers. My boss pulled the guy who was training me and put him on a different project. So, with next to zero training, I've been put in charged of inspecting all 2000 extinguishers by myself. My company has been doing this work for this particular client for about 5 years without a contract (normally there's a service contract for a set amount of years). They're prepared to send over a 3 year contract that will streamline a lot of things. However, one of the prerequisites for them is that 100% of the extinguishers need to be inspected. Failure to get 100% of them inspected is a "deal-breaker" (their words) I have 3 days to find all the extinguishers that I've missed and I don't even know where they are.


tl;dr- Keeping or losing a client of 15 years has been placed on my shoulders and I have no idea how i'm going to do it.

Holy crap!

You should contact the old guy first.

[Dtrain323i]

[quote author=Dtrain323i link=topic=3709.msg272785#msg272785 date=1383011207]
Basically, my job is to inspect fire extinguishers at this particular plant. There's roughly 2000 extinguishers. It takes 2-3 weeks to go through the whole plant and check them all. The guy who's been doing this job for a couple years showed me around for one inspection cycle (meaning i've been through these building once, maybe twice). So there's no way for me to know the locations of all 2000 extinguishers. My boss pulled the guy who was training me and put him on a different project. So, with next to zero training, I've been put in charged of inspecting all 2000 extinguishers by myself. My company has been doing this work for this particular client for about 5 years without a contract (normally there's a service contract for a set amount of years). They're prepared to send over a 3 year contract that will streamline a lot of things. However, one of the prerequisites for them is that 100% of the extinguishers need to be inspected. Failure to get 100% of them inspected is a "deal-breaker" (their words) I have 3 days to find all the extinguishers that I've missed and I don't even know where they are.


tl;dr- Keeping or losing a client of 15 years has been placed on my shoulders and I have no idea how i'm going to do it.

Holy crap!

You should contact the old guy first.
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He's not going to know where they are either. He wasn't on site at all this month, he's installing an alarm system way the fuck out in buttfuck Nebraska.

[at0m]

Aren't they on evacuation maps? The safety officer in the plant should also know where they all are

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[Dtrain323i]

Aren't they on evacuation maps? The safety officer in the plant should also know where they all are

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Getting maps is supposedly part of the new contract........

It's apparently my job to make them. There's allegedly maps that were given to an employee that doesn't work for us anymore. Nobody knows about them though.

[at0m]

[quote author=at0m link=topic=3709.msg272793#msg272793 date=1383014667]
Aren't they on evacuation maps? The safety officer in the plant should also know where they all are

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Getting maps is supposedly part of the new contract........

It's apparently my job to make them. There's allegedly maps that were given to an employee that doesn't work for us anymore. Nobody knows about them though.
[/quote]I mean the ones on the walls of the plant, if there are any? During your safety briefing at the plant you should've met the safety person, he's supposed to have copies of those as well.

[CaffeinePowered]

[quote author=Dtrain323i link=topic=3709.msg272797#msg272797 date=1383017420]
[quote author=at0m link=topic=3709.msg272793#msg272793 date=1383014667]
Aren't they on evacuation maps? The safety officer in the plant should also know where they all are

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Getting maps is supposedly part of the new contract........

It's apparently my job to make them. There's allegedly maps that were given to an employee that doesn't work for us anymore. Nobody knows about them though.
[/quote]I mean the ones on the walls of the plant, if there are any? During your safety briefing at the plant you should've met the safety person, he's supposed to have copies of those as well.
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How can they know that all the extinguishers are inspected if even they dont know where they all are...